31 October 2006

Hetero-Flexible...I dig it

But, No, I'm Not

Hipster girl: I think he wanted to know if you were bisexual.
Hipster boy: Well, I prefer the term hetero-flexible.

--Starbucks, Astor Place

Overheard by: Adrienne

via Overheard in New York, Oct 31, 2006


Chris said...

Yeah, on the one hand, that seems to be a little bit of a dodge, but on the other hand, it kind of makes sense, too. It speaks to how crude our language about sexuality and desire is.

For instance, I suppose that in the most technical sense of the word, I am bisexual. I have had sex with other guys on occasion, but it really is a tiny part of my sexuality. At least 98 or 99 percent of the time, you can be sure that I'm checking out the women in the room. Every so often, though, something clicks and through circumstance I'll wind up playing with another guy at a party, or my brain will start in on a homo fantasy. But in the scheme of things, that doesn't happen often enough that I would feel comfortable answering "yes" to the bisexual question. From my perspective, it would sound a little poseur-ish.

Usually, when people ask that question, what they really want to know at some level is, "Would you want to fuck me?" When I hear someone say they're bisexual, it implies to me that their desires are much closer to 50-50 than mine. If someone really wants to know, I usually describe myself as "MOSTLY heterosexual." It may be a cop-out, but it's the best I can come up with.

We obviously have so far to go in how we talk about sex.

ButterflyTemptress said...

I love it!! I have always called myself a "fence rider" from way back, but this is better by far!

The Butterfly Temptress