tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25707425.post1482272529424139535..comments2023-10-17T08:11:52.353-04:00Comments on Designing Intimacy: It Just Kinda SucksBeccahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07729592098127325913noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25707425.post-27704750703752108252007-03-31T23:14:00.000-04:002007-03-31T23:14:00.000-04:00This sucks. I'm sorry things worked out so bleah ...This sucks. I'm sorry things worked out so bleah for you. I hope the "next man" is someone who's psyche and schedule mesh with yours. <BR/><BR/>There may not be a torch in your life now, but there are plenty of warm, comfortable friendly hearths that you can warm yourself at. I know ( jsut from reading the blog) that people care about you. Some of us are worth leaning on when you need to.<BR/><BR/>If you feel like talking with me some day about life and open relationhips and heartache, let me know. In meat-space or online.<BR/><BR/>I've got a somewhat cool communityfor friends who might be a good place for you to feel welcome and cared for. Ask about it someday if you lile.<BR/><BR/>-Josh JJosh Jasperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08441897278413737658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25707425.post-81420229079119686552007-03-30T19:15:00.000-04:002007-03-30T19:15:00.000-04:00It wasn't hurtful, but it bugged me. You're basin...It wasn't hurtful, but it bugged me. You're basing your opinion on only a slice of information. I've never said why he had to cancel. They were, in my opinion, legitimate and understandable reasons. Which is why I tried to stress that it was not my main reason for ending things with him.<BR/><BR/>He did want to see me. He felt awful canceling on me, and wanted to see me Saturday. But I declined. And he didn't take so easily to me ending things.<BR/><BR/>I'm not stupid. I know when someone "isn't that into me."Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07729592098127325913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25707425.post-1554364296405617862007-03-30T19:05:00.000-04:002007-03-30T19:05:00.000-04:00Christ, I didn't say anything THAT hurtful. I onl...Christ, I didn't say anything THAT hurtful. <BR/>I only said, you know, "he wasn't that into you". Don't you watch "Sex in the City"?<BR/><BR/>You can't break it off with a guy who has no interest in seeing you...because nothing really exists if he cancels 3 weeks in a row. He was probably cheating on someone else. He was using you for sex. And he got his sex and moved it the hell onwards.<BR/><BR/>Stop dating people you have sex with. Have sex with people you date.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25707425.post-27004006156238070402007-03-29T20:17:00.000-04:002007-03-29T20:17:00.000-04:00This will probably come across as a "Now that I'm ...This will probably come across as a "Now that I'm older and more experienced, I wish I had done things differently when I was your age, but wouldn't listen when I was given this very same advice." kind of comment. So feel free to do as I did and disregard.<BR/><BR/>I've done what you're doing. Cut interesting women out of my life because I knew they weren't "The One". At the time, I was sure of what I was doing.<BR/><BR/>Now I'm 38 and married. Happily Ever After has begun. I love my wife, and my life with my family.<BR/><BR/>But I'm not sure I did the right thing.<BR/><BR/>I consider my twenties as a period of self discovery. I now know that I had absolutely no clue of who I was or would become. Take politics for example. I was raised as a red blooded conservative Republican, a group that I now consider to be narrow minded, intolerant, hypocrital idiots.<BR/><BR/>If I were to have taken a different approach, it would be to realize that I had a lot of time and self discovery ahead of me. Finding "The One" would have been a low or non priority. I wonder what experience I missed out while I was taking myself so seriously.<BR/><BR/>Keep writing your blog. You'll be able to look back when you're pushing 40, and see if I'm right.zymergehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17577017453824624340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25707425.post-30114652530862574352007-03-29T19:23:00.000-04:002007-03-29T19:23:00.000-04:00Smart girl.I wish I had that kind of... will power...Smart girl.<BR/><BR/>I wish I had that kind of... will power? <BR/><BR/>I have "this time, it'll be different" syndrome.Marielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16823585356249770620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25707425.post-24929865570965690582007-03-29T14:13:00.000-04:002007-03-29T14:13:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25707425.post-90371659819196180772007-03-29T10:33:00.000-04:002007-03-29T10:33:00.000-04:00Sorry it didn't work with him, but proud of you fo...Sorry it didn't work with him, but proud of you for knowing yourself well enough to know what you want and need out of a relationship and life. Best of luck moving forward.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com